Stop losing your peace because of things that don’t matter in the first place. Your mind is always so occupied by unfruitful concerns about who is saying what about you, what negative things the future holds, what happened back then, and the mess you’re dealing with right now.
When you are consumed in your mind, so shall your reality be also. Your mind must be freed in order to be free indeed in life. Change your mind, and you change your reality.
And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God
Learn to ignore what doesn’t matter. This is a basic principle of meditation. Keep your mind focused on that which is worthwhile, without reaction but just observation, and gain control over the ideas and thoughts you accept and reject.
Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.
2 Corinthians 10:5
Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;
Stop being controlled by your thoughts, but learn to master them, and as you master your thoughts from within, you master your life externally.
Proverbs 26:4-5 “Answer not a fool according to his folly, lest thou also be like unto him. Answer a fool according to his folly, lest he be wise in his own conceit.”
There are some people who are just so content in their ignorance, hatred, wickedness, self-justification, etc., that the wisest of all statements would mean nothing to them. In such cases, don’t waste your breath in trying to teach, for their pride would not allow them to receive it. It would be wasted value, which is why the Bible tells you to do things like “shake the dust off your feet” for those who reject light, and:
“Give not that which is holy unto the dogs, neither cast ye your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn again and rend you.” (Matthew 7:6)
In such, don’t allow such a fool to rile you up in anger and become entangled in dispute, for their ignorance is not worth your peace. Simply keep it moving!
Only in those cases whereas to let the foolish know that you are NOT fooled by their foolery, should you answer them according to it, that they may be humbled, and at least for a moment in you, realize they they can’t always get over on everyone. Chances are, they will then go back and trash talk about you because despite the haughty words, it does burn them that you rejected their ignorance, and their insults then become what soothes them, yet, for you, your peace should remain.
Overall however, let not the foolish drag you into their ignorance, for it is like a raging fire that shall sooner or later consume them; don’t be entangled then, that you shall also get burned. Ignore ignorance, and flee foolishness… it is not WORTH your time!
If somebody has done something against you and you should be over it by now, yet for some reason are still mad, consider that you may need to forgive yourself.
Often, bitterness remains in a situation because we are unknowingly mad that we didn’t respond strong enough to really “teach them a lesson” for mistreating us. We also often find ourselves regretting that we trusted them enough to allow them to hurt us. Finally, we also have the situation where we were offended because the other person did something to us that we could have and maybe even had considered doing to them, but just never did it out of consideration for them, so we’re mad that we sacrificed and gave them more consideration than they were willing to give us in the same situation.
In any case, even when forgiving the other person, sometimes – even often – it is NECESSARY to also forgive yourself. Forgive yourself for being too kind, too considerate, too compassionate, too foolish, too naive, etc., to the point that somebody was able to take advantage of it and hurt you!
…and in such, you shall be strengthened. Bless you.
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